An Analogy to understand the importance of self-care
The metaphor of high tide and low tide can be a valuable way to understand the ebbs and flows that we experience in our lives. Using a metaphor that places the understanding outside of ourselves and the judgments we hold about how we should be. Just as the tides are beyond our control and will inevitably change, so too will our energy levels and resilience vary over time. It's important to recognize when we are at low tide it is essential to be gentle with ourselves during these times, as we may be more vulnerable to being affected by things. Such as comments that normally wouldn't bother us, a sudden change in schedule, not hearing from a friend or loved one, etc. During these low tide windows, engaging in self-care, making space for community care, addressing physical health needs, and continuing to assess current needs and beliefs can be vital. By being aware of our own high and low tides, we can better navigate life's challenges and demands and take care of ourselves in a sustainable way. You aren’t broken because your ability to cope with life changes. Shifts in energy are as natural as the tide. You are allowed to have support in identifying what you need to be present or absent in navigating the ebbs and flows of energy, motivation and confidence that a natural part of life.
Steps to take during a low tide period:
Address any issues related to sleep
Ensure where you sleep feels comfortable
Get sunlight shortly after waking up and during sunset
Avoid or limit screen time after 10 pm
Find comforting activities that match your emotional energy level
Listen to an album you enjoyed in the past
Listen to an audiobook or podcast about something you find interesting
Create a list of new things you want to try when you are feeling more like yourself
Practice mindfulness in a way that makes sense for you
Take a shower or bath by candlelight
Take 5-10 slow deep breaths at the start or end of your day
Slow down and notice the steps involved in a typical activity
Find a way to move that feels safe and manageable
Everyone has different physical abilities and a different relationship with movement
Find a way to engage in movement that promotes connection and joy
Inconsistent physical activity is better than no activity
Practice neutral or affirming self-talk
Example: I should be able to do the dishes. I am so worthless I can’t even do this right.
Neutral: I know I need to the dishes and I don’t have the energy right now. I will come back and figure out a plan to get them done later
Affirming: I want to get dishes done and I don’t have the mental energy right now and that is absolutely okay. .
